The big 20!

Naturally I would go to bed and just write another blog some other time but this is number 20 for me, and I feel my last blog didn't come out the way I wanted it to so I thought that I would give it another go round. First, music, listen to Hold On by Blink-182. It shows just what guys go through somewhat. Well, I just want to say is that I have always wondered why people make things so complicated in relationships. I know that in some of my past relationships, when things ended everything got weird, and also things at the beginning were really weird and awkward. (I am talking about dating, you know boyfriend and girlfriend status) I always seemed to be in some sort of competition with another guy, like I had to out do him or be better then him. So, asking a girl out was complicated,just in the fact that I was worried how the girl thought o f me compare to other guys. By the way, girls we aren't stupid, we can tell when you like another guy, so finding our competition isn't that hard. So, after we finally get what we think to be a go ahead signal from a girl we ask them out, go out on a date with them, so on and so forth. But first I would like to back up to the asking out part. Most girls philosophy is that if the guy asks they won't say no just because he reached out and put his feelings on the line and you don't want to crush him. Don't waste our time. If you don't like us say no. That is the last thing I want, to go out with a girl because they felt some sympathy for me so they lead me on. Okay so now you argue a guy sees to much into something. Why would a guy ask you out if he didn't like you more then a friend? If you just want to be a guys friend and you see the date as more of a hang out time instead of a date, then you need to tell the guy that, because then he will know not to bring his A game for that date, and more importantly not to get his hopes up that you like him which brings us right back to why did you say yes in the first place. Honesty is the best policy. I think the biggest advice I can give anyone on a date or in a relationship, act, just act, that this person is the first person you have been in a relationship with. There is no need to compare and contrast this relationship with a previous one, because in all reality this is the first time you have ever been in a relationship with that person so everything is new and you really can't compare them to anyone else because no one else is like them. No one wants to hear about how you and your last boyfriend or you and this guy went here and it was so much fun. Especially if you like a guy or girl, what a bad way to frustrate them or make them upset or to send the wrong signs and make things complicated. Don't look to deep into things and if you are afraid someone is then tell them and clear everything up. If you want a friendship, let I be a friendship, if you want more then pursue that and make it obvious what you want. Well, I think you have heard enough of Eric's Dating Philosophy. I almost want to write a dating guide but I think it might not turn out so well. So, you my readers tell me what you think. Leave me some comments and if you think I should produce a book let me know and I will pursue it. In the mean time look out for the next 30 blogs that I am getting ready to bust out. I am done writing about dating, seeing that the weekend is coming up I might go football. But I think I need a blogging break, because they seem to be getting some what boring. Well talk to you later .